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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

For the PREEMIE MOMMAS our there....

This post is for all the preemie mommas out there that have "been chosen"! Especially my sweet friends Brooke Coyle and Catie Rusch (both have identical boys born premature)...This was sent to me in an email from Amy Shaver, a sweet sorority sister of mine who had a little boy born at 28 weeks, named Nolan. She contacted me when I was in the hospital awaiting the premature birth of our boys. At that time, I felt like the only person in the world that was going to have preemie baby boys. Now I know so many mommas that have been through the same thing..funny how God connects you with others that have journeyed through the same trials in life. I can't help but wonder if that is part of His purpose in sending us through them...not only to strengthen us spiritually but to connect us with others to draw support from one another. I am thankful for all those who reached out to me with loving support during our "preemie days"..

Did you ever wonder how the mothers of premature babies are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering over Earth, selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger. "Beth Armstrong, son. Patron Saint, Matthew. Marjorie Forrest, daughter. Patron Saint, Celia. Carrie Rutledge, twins. Patron Saint... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."

Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles. "Give her a preemie."

The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a premature baby a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel."

"But does she have the patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience, or she'll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it. I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has a world of its own. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."

"But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just the right amount of selfishness. "

The angel gasps, "Selfishness? ! Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't know it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says 'mama' for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see – ignorance, cruelty, prejudice – and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her Patron Saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in the air.

God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

1 comment:

Sue said...

Dear Friend, What a beautiful tribute to preemie moms! I'm not preemie mom but I am a preemie's grandma. My granddaughter was born
Jan. 19 - about 9 weeks early - she's growing like a weed. I have enjoyed reading about your precious children. Blessings to your sweet family.